Shit free, please!

To-do lists are a form of them; so are New Year resolutions. Infomercials depend on their very existence. Goals; having them, setting a path to accomplish a desired new outcome is part of what we do. Whether it is to lose a few pounds, save money, find love or simply to take action, having a goal shouldn't define who we are as a person. It should motivate us. The definition of insanity is repeating actions the same as before expecting a different outcome. Perhaps the adage If at first you don't succeed try, try again is as outdated as the AMC Hornet (I had one. Gold in color at that. Straight pimpin'). One step at a time, however, now that's a formula. One that works well with goal setting. Often times, we bite more than we can chew. I know I do. Taking control isn't about regaining it today, after all, it didn't get lost overnight. Smaller steps, ones in which we can identify, quantify, and feel good about for achieving lead to another, then another. Focus on the end outcome less, the immediate step more. You want to go back to school? Forget the 4 years ahead and take the first step to fill out the application. Follow that step, with enrolling, picking classes, and attending; each process a foot forward, a focused action in a broader vision. Defining the end before it begins doesn't allow for flexibility. The end goal is but a destination, the steps in which become the journey. Knowing that journey doesn't involve self doubt, or being shit on, it relies on the ability to believe in yourself. Believe that you are too valuable to endure the shitters in your life, whatever or whoever they are. Go ahead, pick your destination, travel the many roads which navigate the way. Just remember streets are not always paved in gold, but they should be shit free.